That was the response from a person who was in my ‘inner-circle’, when I told them that I wanted to start my own business.
I’d like to say that I sort of understood what they meant by that. I’d like to say that ‘I think I knew where they were coming from’. I’d even like to say that I excused their small-thinking mindset.
But I didn’t.
I was a little annoyed. And I don’t think it was because of their small-mindedness. I’ve been around those sorts of people for most of my working life. My annoyance was due to the disinterest that this person was showing. Didn’t they think I could do it? Were they saying that I shouldn’t bother because I don’t have what it takes? Maybe I was a little insecure?
Then it hit me.
Those that you allow to speak into your world will determine where you will end up. If I had listened to that person, that trusted friend, I would not be doing what I am doing today. I had heard about ‘moving people out of your inner-circle’, but now I was facing that decision.
So….. I did it.
This may sound insensitive, but it was the best for both of us. I made the decision not just from that one incident – there were many signs previous to this conversation that I had simply ignored. This incident was the catalyst that lead me to realise what needed to happen.
‘Having fun’ and ‘hanging with friends’ was taking precedence over my future and it blinded me from seeing the truth of the situation. For those that know me, hanging with friends laughing, eating and enjoying life is something I thoroughly enjoy… as you can imagine, I didn’t make this decision lightly.
For some of you, this is the decision you need to make to move into your ‘Next’. It may be difficult, it may even get awkward, but the opportunities awaiting you are worth it.
This is also true for organisations. Don’t be afraid to move people out of the ‘inner-circle’. Sometimes it’s necessary, other times it’s mandatory.
At The Community Co we realise that culture is the single most important aspect of who we are. We also realise that any person connected to us contributes to our culture and therefore we are careful on who is connected to us. From the very start, we made some tough decisions – the types of suppliers we want, the types of services we engage and even, the types of clients (communities) we take on.
You create your future with the decisions you make every day.
written by George